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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • I really can’t tell if you’re being an asshole or not. These are people I grew up around, admiring some of. The uncle I fished with and his son, my cousin, currently beyond reach. I spent every summer with them. It’s heartbreaking. Am I going to cave and let them back in without some kind of ‘come to Jesus’ moment? No, but I am willing to let them admit that they were wrong, successfully lied to, and become welcome members of the family again, because I’m not a monster and neither are they. I don’t think they genuinely believe half of the shit they spout, but do it to fit in. They never had an opinion about immigrants or trans people until it was fed to them. They were just happy hicks doing normal happy hick shit.




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    What about when it’s your family? I am estranged from a lot of people that I care deeply for because they refuse to engage with reason. I’m not trying to put anyone on a pedestal, good or bad.

    I just want people to know that they are welcome to change their minds, nobody is going to mock them for doing so, or say I told you so. That’s what they expect, and pride is part of what holds many of them back from admitting that they were wrong. Because it’s what they would do. Unfortunately, we’re going to need to take the high road.


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    At some point we need to start welcoming people to the Light, instead of demonizing them for having been in the Dark. It’s pretty difficult for me not to dunk on people as they wake up to the nightmare that they voted for, but a lot them ARE actually otherwise decent folks. Making America Great is going to involve deprogramming a lot of people.








  • Hahaha welcome to rural living for sure! Ive had a couple early camping mornings because I didn’t know how close the loggers would be. It’s nice to get started on chores earlier as you can, but I do try to be mindful of gas tools before 8.

    One of my neighbors must be invested in a couple different ammunition companies and trying to inflate their stock the way they shoot. All day Sunday sometimes.

    Trade offs for living in the woods.







  • What’s his issue? Give him something tangential.

    Big drinker? Cheapest bottle opener or a nip of his favorite sauce.

    Angry asshole? Get him a therapy ball.

    The biggest thing my condescending asshole stepdad taught me was “Kill them with kindness”. If you’re kind in a backhanded way, it’ll piss them off and you can feign innocence.

    Personally I’d give him a box of dogshit