I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.
As a nurse who graduated in the middle of COVID (and was working in hospitals leading up to it), A Wizard’s Guide to Defensive Baking by T. Kingfisher was surprisingly healing read.
“You expect heroes to survive terrible things. If you give them a medal, then you don’t ever have to ask why the terrible thing happened in the first place. Or try to fix it.”
eh if I took up travel nursing I’d probably still want something similar to a house or apartment to rent for 3-6 months because most hotels aren’t really designed to be lived in that long but I also don’t want to buy a wholeass house then worry about selling it in 6 months. but that’s splitting hairs, at what point do you just call that an extended stay hotel? but also at what point does an extended stay hotel become a rental property?
but every time I hear a “property owner” complain about how hard and expensive it is to own other people’s homes I’m just like my guy no one is making you do that if it’s so damn hard just sell it to the person who lives there except deep down you realize how good of a deal you’re getting you’re just mad everybody isn’t acting like you’re not a prick for it.
My experience with the internet suggests that you are all but alone in that assertion. I was going to say I don’t know anything about that personally but Nick Wilde from zootopia did kind of get me (I’ve always had a soft spot for the trickster archetype).
tbh being more or less nonbinary I actually really love the approach to gender this book takes, and actually not because the Radch is largely gender abolitionist (although that is pretty great). Also: fair warning, this is a discussion about gender as a philosophical concept, sociopolitically speaking it’s a fact that trans people deserve to exist however they damn well please and people as a whole really need to stop acting like that substantially affects them. The fact that this has resulted in people feeling physically and economically unsafe is a huge problem that needs to be handled a lot better than we’re currently doing. To me, a big part of the reason I haven’t pursued any kind of gender changes on my government paperwork is that I really don’t think it was any of their business to begin with, and I don’t feel the need to give the government MORE information about my gender.
While the characters in the Murderbot Diaries definitely sucked me in more, the approach to gender in that one almost struck me as unrealistically subject to our current moralism around gender. Most of my interaction with gender as a concept is that it’s the way the culture that surrounds you perceives you. Not even just other individuals around you: the culture as a whole. I’m androgynous enough that while my gender tends to fall one way for most people, it’s not unusual for me to be perceived the other, both, or neither. A lot of people seem to have difficulty with the concept that I’m showing a reduced amount of gendered traits, while some just decide they don’t care altogether, and the variety of pronouns I overhear about myself is always interesting.
So while I understand the desire for self-determinism, it makes a lot more sense to me to see a world where gender is a lot more determined by things like what language the interaction is being conducted in. And while I love that the Radch is gender abolitionist, it also raises the point that just because you got rid of that one particular way people assign social standing, doesn’t mean you haven’t found other ways to do that and be shitty about it.
Man this takes me back to highschool
Most girls I see with big curly (or other textured) hair use wraps or bonnets of some kind, usually silk. It does usually have a snug elastic band around the forehead, backs of the ears, and nape of the neck, but the top that holds the actual hair is usually looser and flowy. Another option is to contain the hair in a silk scarf wrapped in some sort of elaborate layered wrap system that you can either look up on YouTube or possibly go learn from a black or other curl / texture specializing hairdresser. If you’re looking for something more masculine, black men usually call it a do-rag, or you could get a bonnet that is in a darker more subdued color and side profile.
In either case you would have to accept that big textured hair does demand somewhat counter-cultural styles just for practical reasons; there’s a lot of stigma around them, at least in the states. I work in an institutional setting in a predominately black area and one of the more twisted bits of US irony is that we institutionalize black and other non-white people more often, then don’t stock the hair products they need, then send them to court looking a fucking mess.
We had a really really beautiful success / recovery story this week after I had an utterly hellish experience with the same patient the previous week and I was reflecting that I really live for those moments because it can be otherwise difficult to justify my role in this system, and I work in the kinder mental health half now, not the completely fucked correctional end. Sorry for the tangent, I’ve had some pretty big emotional highs and lows of late.
Awkward by not talking is 100% better, especially from a strategic standpoint. I would be so much farther in life right now if I only knew how to keep my fat fucking mouth shut. There’s a reason the “strong silent type” is a trope. You might be a weird nervous awkward little fuck in there but nobody can prove it.
24 minutes before a right answer is pretty good for one of these tbh. u right tho
I’m taking a break. Shit was paralyzing me to the damn couch so I wasn’t doin anybody any good anyway. Imma go read a damn book in between my shitty healthcare job and get back to you in 6-8 weeks. Lmk if you want tips for navigating the us Healthcare system.
Papermate inkjoy. The other nurses keep trying to steal my last one that I stole from my last workplace just before it started going downhill and stopped buying the nice pens. It was about 6-8 months before they swapped all our managers and supervisors with ones that were literally physically violent. Now that I think about it the pens have actually been a pretty good thermometer of all my past workplaces. If you go to a hospital and all the nurses have the same decently nice pens, that means their employer is probably taking decent care of them (at least as far as healthcare execs go) and well kept nurses are better at taking care of patients.
It could barely make calls. It can make calls as a party trick but you can’t really access your contacts book in an easily usable way, you can’t start new text conversations, and you can’t view your full calendar and you definitely can’t add events. I don’t need much for a watch to replace my phone but I do need it to call and text well and I need to be able to access my calendar. It’s very clear that those devices are designed and intended to add more tracking and monitoring and dopamine hooks on top of your phone, not to replace it with a less intrusive alternative. It was actually fairly frustrating.
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I hope they make one I can make calls from without a phone I tried to switch to smartwatch-only late last year but even the Samsung watch couldn’t handle that.
Yes, will be picking them up from the library when my holds come in.
With that background I’m surprised it wasn’t.
Ooc what do you usually consider interesting? Genuine question; trying to look at this through your eyes.
Will be perusing when I get home.
try in c/healthcareworkers