Its not a secret that no ads on lemmy, which makes the process more difficult paying for hosting to keep your instance only, so tell me!
How do you fund your lemmy instance? do you sell products through lemmy? Donations? how you convince people to donate to your instance? Do you sell subscriptions? how?
In fact I got a dedicated server because I wanted to do virtualization for more flexibility, otherwise a VPS would have been perfect.
I am alone on my lemmy instance, don’t have many friends into this kind of application they are more into the other stuff I host: matrix, nextcloud, mumble, …
Sharing my server resources would not be of any use since they are way overkill for what I’m doing :)