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  • zecg@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•I don't understand referring to sex as "screwing"
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    2 months ago

    I asked the local deepseek-14b in my basement what it thinks and bolded the part that was also my answer.

    Q: Can you explain referring to sex as “screwing”? Doesn’t that imply some rotational energy the act doesn’t have? Unless I’m doing it wrong. And although screws DO go in and out, they do it awfully slowly. If we’re going to use mechanical metaphors, wouldn’t “pistoning” be more apt?

    <think> Okay, so someone is questioning why people refer to sex as “screwing.” They think that using the term implies some kind of rotational energy since screws rotate when they’re driven in, but during sex, there’s no actual rotation involved. Plus, screws go in and out slowly, while sexual intercourse typically happens much faster. The person is suggesting that maybe “pistoning” would be a better metaphor because it relates to the in-and-out motion, similar to how a piston works in an engine.

    Hmm, I can see where they’re coming from. Metaphors are tricky because they try to draw parallels between two different things, but sometimes those parallels aren’t perfect. Let’s break this down. First, why do people use “screwing” for sex? Well, the term probably originates from the physical action of screwing something in, like using a screwdriver. The movement involves turning and pushing, which might have been likened to the movements involved in sexual intercourse.

    But wait, when you screw something, it’s more about rotation and maybe some linear motion as you turn the screwdriver. However, during sex, while there is an in-and-out motion, it’s not rotational. So why the term “screwing”? Maybe because both involve a kind of forceful entry or movement?
    Or perhaps it’s just that the word became slang over time and stuck, even if the mechanics aren’t exactly the same.

    Then, the person points out that screws go in and out slowly, but sex is usually faster. That’s another point—metaphors often simplify things, so maybe “screwing” is used not because of the speed or movement type, but more for the idea of fitting together or forcing entry.

    As for suggesting “pistoning,” they’re right that pistons move in a cyclical in-and-out motion, which might be a closer fit to how sex is sometimes described. But why isn’t “pistoning” the term used instead? Maybe because “screw” has a stronger connotation of force and assembly, which are aspects people associate with sex.

    I wonder if there’s also a historical or cultural reason for using “screwing.” Maybe in certain contexts, it was considered more vulgar or descriptive than other terms. Also, metaphors often stick based on how they’re popularized in media, literature, or even slang usage, regardless of their technical accuracy.

    Another angle is that “screwing” might evoke the idea of紧固 and fitting together, which could metaphorically relate to intimacy. So it’s not just about the motion but also about the connection between people. On the other hand, “pistoning” seems more mechanical and less about the emotional or intimate aspect.

    But then again, maybe the person is overthinking it. Sometimes metaphors are used because they’re catchy or have a certain rhythm in language, even if they aren’t technically accurate. For example, saying “making love” is poetic but doesn’t describe the mechanics either.

    I also think about other sex-related terms, like “dancing,” which emphasizes movement and rhythm over specifics of motion. So maybe “screwing” just stuck because it was a term that described the act in a way that was understood at some point, even if the metaphor isn’t perfect.

    In conclusion, while “pistoning” might be a more accurate mechanical metaphor for the in-and-out motion, “screwing” has its own history and connotations that make it a common slang term. Metaphors often don’t need to be technically precise; they just need to resonate or convey an idea effectively, even if imperfectly. </think>

  • zecg@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Even if your parents weren't truly bad, what was the most narcissistic/narcissist-esque trait or thing they ever did?
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    8 months ago

    Lately I’ve been reading a lot of books on narcissism and have been picking up on the idea/notion/possibility/viewpoint that narcissism is a spectrum like autism is. In autism, which itself is incredibly common due to the fact that it’s multiple genes/processes/whatever performing multiple parts of a spectrum (think a carpet representing humanity and a shattered cup on the carpet, I use the shards in this visual to represent pieces of the spectrum scattered across humanity, apologies if anyone thinks a shattered cup seems like a negative comparison, I don’t), you have the majority of humanity having some variance in it, which goes to demonstrate there’s no such thing as a neurotypical. As in, if a scouter was invented that instead of scanning your power level scanned your autism level, everyone would have their very own signature number. I would be over 9000. Same with narcissism, if this view is correct, as it would be another shattered glass on the carpet that is humanity, with the shards from both glasses overlapping in their territories (which when you think about it makes the family dynamics in The Good Doctor all the more awkward, it’s one spectrum at odds with another in a show where the main character is a medical savant with autism). And again, not trying to make an awkward comparison, I have friends who openly confess to me they’re deep on the narcissism spectrum, and these people at least are trying their best in life, as well as showing narcissism is a neutral condition that just happens to seem more negative in modern urban situations

    This is a pseudopsychological word salad, but please accept my apology if you’re 14 or chatgpt prompted for redditisms, if that’s the case good job.