Gratitude is a revolutionary act in times like these. Since you’re going to die, anyway, you might as well enjoy the ride as much as you can and teach your child to do the same. If you manage to make the world a better place along the way, then so much the better.

Peace.

What is “erratic” for you? What is “off in a bad way” for you? There might be a clue in there somewhere.

What a great way to learn how people interpret behaviors as “lazy”. Intriguing…

The difference between lazy and burnout lies in how much you trust the person not working.

It could be both! Why not?

Excessive apologies can feel disingenuous and perfunctory. That makes it difficult for me to know when an apology is genuine. That erodes my trust.

Excessive apologies can signal to me that the other person sees me as a threat, and I don’t want to feel like a threat, so I feel attacked.

But I could also choose to interpret excessive apologies as a sign of past trauma, so I could choose to have compassion and patiently ask the other person to talk to me about what’s going on. I can share how I feel and hope that they feel ready to discuss what’s happening for them. Patience would be key.

Now it depends whether you mean actual DEI or the nonsense that companies do in the name of DEI or the unfortunate overreaction that some people support related to DEI due to the resistance to actual, reasonable, sensible DEI.

“… regardless of all other factors…” sounds like the second of these.

Obligatory mention of lazygit for those who prefer vi and its descendants.

No, I’m not making any claim regarding which is better. Hold your cards and letters. In many other universes, I’m a daily user of magit.

Not constantly changing things until there is something significant to release is a path to the stability that I value. Meantime, packages run and the system works.

I never wanted a hobby, but rather an operating system. I’ve been using Pop! for over six years. I only had one stretch where I felt like I was chasing annoying bugs and I don’t remember it clearly enough to remember how long it lasted.

I don’t understand why such minced oaths are socially acceptable among people who don’t want to swear for religious reasons. Do they really not realize that they’re thinking “fuck” and effectively saying “fuck”?!

And what about the Catholics who take the position that a sin in thought is just as evil as a sin in deed?

Either say “fuck” or stop even thinking “fuck”. Anything in between is disingenuous bullshit.

To answer your question, no. I try to comply with folks who don’t want me to swear around their kids, but I volunteer to do that as a courtesy and can’t be coerced into it except by real force, such as threatening my physical safety or livelihood.

Excellent! I missed DaisyDisk. It looks great!

Our naming convention was comic strip characters, hence Hobbes, Casper, and Quincy.

The second vowel is an unstressed “i”. In most varieties of English, since it is unstressed, we pronounce it as a schwa, which sounds roughly like “uh”.

If you’d like to articulate that syllable, like you might do in French, then pronounce it like the “i” in “sit”. That’s completely optional.

You seem to be ready for either mindfulness meditation or Stoic philosophy. Neither one provides a quick fix, but the benefits accumulate over time.

I’m sorry that you’re going through this. I wish you peace.

There is an implicit binary choice here, so “whether” fits. Both work, although I, for one, prefer to use “whether” for binary choices and “if” when there are more options. This is similar to my preference for “between” only for two things and “among” for more than two.

The phrase “I’m wondering if… can…” needs a noun or pronoun between “if” and “can”. As soon as you try to remove that (by moving it out to “The monkey who…”), the phrase stops being grammatical. We’d understand you, but it would require significant effort to parse the sentence. That seems to be what makes this sound strange, no matter what we try to do with it.

I don’t know whether other languages can do this, but English can’t.

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Your last paragraph contains the clue. What message do you genuinely believe your brother will understand from you refusing to attend his wedding? Will it do any good? Does it seem likely to change anyone’s behavior?

If yes, then don’t go. If no, then put that thought aside and reconsider whether you actually want to go, then decide based on that.

I keep mine in Bitwarden, I export that data every 3 months and store it in a Backblaze backup, I have it written on a piece of paper stored in a locked fire box in my house, and that paper scanned in my phone.

I can’t imagine not having at least one of those in 10 years and I can’t imagine all four failing in the same week.

Does that give you any helpful ideas that would work for you?