I was in my 50s before I started understanding this stuff. Before that, I was married to a very gregarious man who was my social buffer. I could hide behind his small talk. But then he passed away and I was left twisting in the wind until I started to learn how to make small talk. Often I just ask myself what my husband would have said.
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So are you autistic? Because the literal-mindedness of your answers and the lack of awareness of how to engage in small talk is telling. I say this as one on the spectrum myself; it took me a long time to understand this is just an attempt to establish social connections by finding points of commonality. “Oh, you’re from Calgary? I used to live there, too! Did you know a store called Myth Games?” Neurotypical people are also waiting for you to ask the same things in return and often feel miffed if you don’t show any curiosity about them.
Bingo. Most of these tax schemes will hurt the renter, not the landlord.
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Whats something that is only worth getting the expensive version of?1·1 year agoWatching Harvey Penick videos helped a lot too.
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Whats something that is only worth getting the expensive version of?2·1 year agoIt’s been 30 years so I don’t really remember. They were higher quality and cut to fit my stance, which is a little weird because I have big boobs. Also I was starting from a really low bar – 56 handicap. The biggest improvement was the distance with my woods.
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Whats something that is only worth getting the expensive version of?1·1 year agoI’m dead-on average.
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Whats something that is only worth getting the expensive version of?193·1 year agoCustom golf clubs versus off the rack. Took 30 strokes off my game.
Haircuts / hair dyeing
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•How do you guys cope with the fact that the world isn't getting any better?31·1 year agoSerious answer? The serenity prayer. Recognize what is in your control and what’s not. Accept what you can’t change, change what you can.
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•People who can don't get mad and just go with the flow, how do you do it?1·1 year agoFor me it was getting sober and specifically the serenity prayer. I have a terrible temper. Like break things and punch people temper. It’s always embarrassing to lose control like that. Well, saying that prayer reminds me that there are things I can control and things I can’t. Serenity is understanding the difference and accepting your powerlessness over things like the past, other people’s thoughts and actions, and even your own flaws. I am so calm now, I just have a “not my circus, not my monkeys” attitude most of the time. Occasionally, something starts to push my buttons and I have to walk away if possible, but that’s rare.
Also, make sure you’re getting enough sleep and try cutting out caffeine. Anything that causes more cortisol production is going to stress you.
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Just before death you are granted one truthful, understandable answer to one question. What would you want to know?10·1 year agoDid my childhood dog really go live on a farm in the country?
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•"If you tell a lie big enough and tell it frequently enough, people will eventually come to believe it". What is an example of this happening today?8·1 year agoTurns out that some people have overlap in color perception that muddies things, and when you use these glasses to filter out the “in between” wavelengths, everything becomes easier to distinguish.
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•"If you tell a lie big enough and tell it frequently enough, people will eventually come to believe it". What is an example of this happening today?653·1 year agoRising early and going to bed early is more virtuous than rising late and going to bed late.
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's an aspect of your job that college didn't prepare you for?301·1 year agoOffice politics. I was a 4.0 student who was given an award by the faculty as best computer science student two years in a row. Despite being talented, extra hard working and driven, I had no idea how to play the game and my career stalled almost immediately. I watched others with weaker skills get promotions and raises because they knew the right people and served on the right committees. Being slightly autistic, I never realized the rules of the game. I quit after 8 years and started my own business, went back as a contractor getting 4x the pay, and it was awesome. There should be a class for people called “sucking up to management and gaming performance reviews.”
Renaissance Man sounds better
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calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's the biggest "Green Flag" that could be misinterpreted as a "Red Flag"?54·1 year agoBeing underemployed. As long as they meet their obligations, I applaud people who don’t live for work.
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Linux@lemmy.ml•Alright, I'm gonna "take one for the team" -- what is with the "downvote-happy" users lately?5·1 year agoI don’t ever go back and look at the votes.
calypsopub@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•In the USA, can you lose your home even after it is 100% paid off?1·1 year agoI like to say that in Texas, you never actually own your home.
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