TurtleCalledCalmie

Sativa in small dosages, and getting older. Around 30 stressing about other people started to fade away

Thats a cool one I gonna try out too!

Rice or pasta with cheap sauce and some grinded meat can sustain a person for quite a long time.

When you cut veggies those cuttings can be a broth base, which you can refrigerate as ice cubes if you boil down water content enough.

Research 2-3 meals that are easy for you to make and are tasty so that it becomes fun to cook.

If you put drop or two less of washing detergent you still will have clean clothes, so it can stretch that bottle for one or two more washings.

Cloths have natural progression from wearable outside, then wearable in home, then it becomes either cut to wiping clothes for cleaning or cover for dogs bed. I learned some rudimentary mending to be able to fix small holes or fix stretch bands in sweatpants and such.
Socks, once other one from the pair goes to Narnia, go to cleaning utensils pile.

Finding way to repurpose, reuse or upcycle stuff can save up some money.
Learning basic maintenance, and how to fix stuff song the house can save up a good bit of money, and with internet it’s easy to learn.

Trying to get most of usability and life from devices is important to get right mindset. Don’t consume, use brain, utilize stuff that you already have, realize that serotonin from experience of buying stuff is temporary and hollow in opposition to enjoying making things happen with limited resources.

Beginning of this year i went thru my subscriptions and cut out nearly everything.

Before going shopping i make a list of things to buy, so that i stay on track and try to speedrun whole shop thing. I rarely buy snacks and unnecessary shit now thanks to that

Being frugal for me means cutting costs of stuff that doesn’t matter to me so that i can achieve my goals and splurge on experiences and things i want. Having a goal that you want to achieve helps a lot. I ask myself “is X going to help me with my goal of Y” or “is X more important than my goal Y”. It helps with finding strenght to be assertive.

HYSA, or short term bonds. Get ~40k for free without stress at the end of the year :)

Draw as hard as i can so it all goes to mouth and spit it out. I thought that’s the only way :D

Pdf version of doom from hackernews not so long ago.

By licking off the topping and sauce. The base gets reused for new pizza.

Good job on beating cancer <3

I did that when i got laid off in January. Can recommend. Mental reset helps. Having no job helps with refocusing on whats really important, like own mental wellbeing, family and friends. Good times, tho i got pretty stressed out because searching for new job took a while, despite everyone else in IT got one in 15mins it seemed at the moment

Been there done that! 10years in company, we got downsized, got thrown away like a trash. Took months to deal with emotions and set myself to do anything. In the end I realized that I was relying on job to be an anchor in my life that everything was revolving around. Losing that anchor forced me to search for a new one, more reliable and something that I can control and that makes me better.
I started with cleaning my house, then deep cleaning shelves and such, then basement, etc. Got interested in working out, and started doing pushups and such. I learned that I was missing that - creating my own schedule, having goals of my own. It was scary at first, ngl. Trying to do small steps, very small sometimes, that improves your situation bit by bit is what I found helps me with being overwhelmed.

Wish you all the best, I hope you recover soon and find better job soon :)

Going to the gym first time. I am 35, sitting behind my pc since i was 10. After going out and training for several months now my back doesn’t hurt anymore, so i recommend :)

Gg on beating that cancer <3

In polish we do prefix po-. Jutro being tomorrow. Overmorrow would be pojutrze, after tomorrow, where you can stack one or two more, but ye more for comedic effect :)

I’m at 35, still full of shit, but indeed getting it sorted out and pulling my shit together is a theme since last couple of years.

I also make computers do beep boop :). Wish you many good years before you <3

Workday

Going thru similar shit right now myself I found an anchor in working out. I started from total zero - zero push ups, zero pull ups, zero sqats, zero crunches. I can do most of these now, with pullups to go still. But I also got into better mindset and learning discipline too. Good stuff that I’ve neglected for 20+ years.

I was in similar situation, where I would sleep off daytime, then it messed up my sleep schedule for years. I got better once I realized that I am a zombie in that state. I advise going for a walk. Try to go a bit further every day. Just stop outside, it’s funny to go home instantly, so have to walk for a minute. The this has two benefits - cardio on fresh air is good for physical health and makes you tired for the night, and for me it brought relief from mental pressure and gave space that I am safe to think about difficult stuff. There is something in act of moving that help with the head. It’s also nice anchor - you are in control of his much you walk, where you walk, just do it, like guy from memes.

Be kind to yourself <3

You were gaining exp in opsec by doing that :D

Thanks!
It took many years to start to know myself, I neglected myself by improperly understanding stoicism that correlated with some mental issues and low self esteem. Many triggers I had I just broke thru with pain, always felt exhausted. There was no sense of accomplishment in the struggle as things I struggle with are normal things for regular people, that’s what I told myself, so I should not make a fuss.
It takes a lot of effort to have compassion for one self.

First, some background: Feeling stupid can happen because when you feel anxiety, your frontal lobe (where you think) turns off. Anxiety is a form of fight or flight, and when that kicks in, your amygdalas (base of brain) block off the thinking part of your brain.

TIL, thank you <3

This one paragraph explained a lot for me why during my anxiety attacks I feel like I cannot do anything. I gonna try to rationalize this information next time it triggers. Recently I had good results with doing long walks (compared to my sitting life) with doggo.
I find it helpful in two ways - when I already got an attack I go with him to stop. This one is kinda coping mechanism to get away from the trigger.
Other thing is I started to make it into my routine to go on longer walks, and during them I explore some topics I find uncomfortable and it makes them less threatening than when I sit at home. The goal is to get accustomed to the feeling, take it in environment that is safe space to explore it. I want to be able to identify it and then maybe could teach myself to react differently, instead of crippling myself.