No one has mentioned metafilter yet??
Its like a reddit that never acquired enough critical mass to become huge and attract shitty people but at the same time attracted enough people to become its own stable little community.
I particularly enjoy that there is a tradition of making high effort posts where people link together several links on a topic/news story into a paragraph about it. Posts often feel like interesting mini blog posts about a topic rather than just a short description and link and I often find myself learning really interesting things reading metafilter.
It is full of generally left leaning people and the site is maintained by paid moderators so I have never run into toxic bullshit there.
Also I think to make an account to post you have to make a one time payment of $5 or so to discourage people from joining who don’t actually want to be there (and discourage trolls).
I think in general, if something is
Then treating it as spam and removing it isn’t a bad idea.
When it comes down to it, moderation is always going to be about the grey areas.
That is why it needs to be done by humans and its also why there needs to be many communities with different moderators so that no one moderation policy/team has too much power/cultural blindspots are limited in their impact.
Ultimately I have seen very little evidence that communities don’t need strong moderation.